Snares, Remedies, and Best Practices for Today’s Civic Strife

Ready to Talk, Listen, and Be Heard?

If you’re like many of us we’re overwhelmed nowadays by the enormity of addressing the current state of political issues in our country. A remedy we propose here is to speak the truth to one another without accusation. We’ve identified accusation as the key dynamic that snares us. By pitting us against one another it robs and cheats us out of the unity that could resolve our polarized debates. We may think we want to win over the other side to our point of view. Irrationally we believe that accusing them will force them to concede. We keep trying despite the proven reality that it nearly never happens. Instead we forfeit the unity that will move things forward beyond our same old cycles of contention and discord. Mutual recriminations are the deep enemy of our civic unity. No one gets heard by the other side, but only by those who already agree.

STAR Executive Director, Trent Frank (left) and E. Douglas Pratt of
Atlanta’s Fulton County Remembrance Coalition, Fall 2019

Escape the Snare

An effective alternative to accusation is to lament about common crises and offer mutual aid for resourcing each other to achieve shared, incremental goals. Until we’re able to exercise those key skills of speaking truth without accusation, voicing lament and offering mutual aid, our cycles of discord will continue to operate, intensify, and accelerate exponentially. So-called ‘speaking to our base’ and ‘speaking truth to power’ are self-indulgent traps in that regard. They are seductive: masking a covert ‘will-to-power’ that feeds on and plays into the cycles of accusation, instead of liberating us from accusation as the real enemy.

George Floyd Death Protest, Summer 2020

Repeat the Remedy

But communicating the truth-power and urgency of an alternative approach can be challenging. Recall for example medical officials who, during the current pandemic, are required to say the same thing over and over again about the solutions. Yet repeating the same thing over and over again is key to the remedy. For we actually need conversation partners to help sustain this perspective, and to keep us from collapsing back inside of an energy well or vortex of doubt, confusion or hopelessness—not to mention collapsing back into our resentments, bitterness or anger. Those dynamics will drain our will-to-concord and misdirect our energies. Instead, best practices for skilled, disciplined listening are called for here.*

Among the most frequented pilgrimage sites in the United States:
The Martin Luther King, Jr. Center for Nonviolent Social Change, Atlanta, Georgia

Practice Skilled Conversations*

Naming ‘all that’ provides the perspective we need to partner and collaborate. Join us in private conversations as well as public speaking to make a decisive contribution to civic restoration. Let us commence together this next stage of ongoing conversations as soon as we can. And thank you, as you implement best practices like the Skilled Conversations model below.* Thank you for ‘being there’ as friends, associates, and fellow citizens.

Theophus ‘Thee’ Smith for STAR Inc.

SKILLED CONVERSATION PRACTICE*

Here are three simple guidelines or ground rules that are commendable as a best practice for the kind of private or organized group conversations that can achieve and foster skilled listening.

1.   Each person gets an equal turn.

Anywhere from one minute to half an hour or more is good. The time that is available is divided equally, and turns are timed so that each person gets the same number of minutes to talk.

 2.   Listeners do not interrupt, comment, analyze, give advice, or break in with a story of their own.

Listeners are often tempted to do these things with the best of intentions. For skilled listening, however, such interruptions interfere with each person doing his or her own thinking: the heart of why shared listening is so effective.

3.   Whatever anyone says during a shared listening session is held confidential until permission is given to share.

Never mentioning it anytime or anywhere, even to the speaker (!) —without the speaker’s say so, gives us all a rare but powerful safety to explore our innermost issues or troublesome thoughts and feelings. Then appropriate action can follow!

IMPORTANT: Conversation partners agree to each Ground Rule in advance.

If relaxedly but intentionally followed, these ground rules can enable people with sufficient good will to hear one another’s most heartfelt and strongest commitments across major differences and tough issues. Topics can include everyday experiences and range through thorny political issues as well as lifestyle choices, faith matters, life cycles and identities like youth and aging.

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Adapted from Russ Vernon Jones: ‘Support Listening for Teachers’ and www.russvernonjones.org

Artist: Andrew Sheldon

STAR’s Dr. Thee Smith to Present at John Hope Franklin Annual Reconciliation In America National Symposium

The Symposium is entitled “Reconciliation and Technology: Neutral Resources for Social Good,” Dr. Thee’s presentation is entitled “Trustbuilding & Truthspeaking vs. ‘Deepfake Justice.'” You can register and see all of the presenters on the website at https://www.jhfnationalsymposium.org/

STAR on GPB Panel with “Always in Season” Screening.


We are excited about the screening event of Always in Season that Georgia Public Broadcasting will host at the GPB headquarters next Tuesday, February 11 at 6pm. Look for this very important discussion around racial terrorism, violence, reconciliation and repair. We will be recording (audio) the panel discussion for future broadcast on GPB Radio’s “On Second Thought” program.https://www.gpb.org/events/2020/02/11/always-in-season-film-screening-and-discussion

The “Brighter STAR” Charity Film Screening & Art Auction

Presenting 

“THE FIRST RAINBOW COALITION” 

A film by Ray Santisteban – The brief and powerful history and legacy of the groundbreaking Chicago multi-ethnic coalition that so poignantly informs the work that is happening right now in Georgia! 

Get your tickets NOW for a minimum requested donation of only $10!

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https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-brighter-star-charity-film-screening-art-auction-tickets-84281045877


Date And Time

Sat, December 14, 2019

3:00 PM – 5:00 PM EST

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Location

Atlanta Shambhala Meditation Center

1447 Church St.

Decatur, GA 30030

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Auction of Artwork by renowned Civil Rights Attorney Andrew Sheldon!

The auction has ended. Thank you to Andrew and the bidders!

Announcement of Highest Bidders will take place on December 14th

Your Small $10 minimum donation through getting a ticket(s) and your bidding on Art will Immediately benefit:

  • YOUTH – To Build our Youth Activism Internship Program and Scholarship Fund.
  • COALITION – To Continue our Expert Support to the Equal Justice Initiative (EJI) Coalition Partners – the Dekalb Remembrance Project (DRP) of the Dekalb NAACP and the Fulton County Remembrance Coalition (FCRC).
  • COMMEMORATION – To Conduct a robust remembrance effort for the 1906 Atlanta Race Riot Massacre.
Intern Brianna on Truth, Reconciliation and Healing
YOUTH – You are helping to Build our Youth Activism Internship Program and Scholarship Fund.
Sue Gilman, Director, Atlanta Shambala Center – Dekalb Remembrance Coalition
COALITION – You are helping to Continue our Expert Support to the Equal Justice Initiative (EJI) Coalition Partners – the Dekalb Remembrance Project (DRP) of the Dekalb NAACP and the Fulton County Remembrance Coalition (FCRC).
COMMEMORATION – You are helping us to Conduct a robust remembrance effort for the 1906 Atlanta Race Riot Massacre.

A Brighter STAR Art Auction

2019 STAR Membership & Fund Development Drive – 12/3 -12/14

Benefiting the STAR Youth Activist Program & Scholarship

And Professional Support to EJI Remembrance Coalitions

“Sunday Reader” Oil, 16 X 20″ Framed

The auction has ended – thank you to all who support us, especially artist Andrew Shelton and the bidders!

STAR Co-Hosting October 9th Screening of the Racial Truth Documentary “ALWAYS IN SEASON”

You are invited to the theatrical run of Always in Season, winner of the Sundance Jury Prize for Moral Urgency, opening this Friday 10/4 and playing through 10/10 at the Plaza Theatre in Atlanta. STAR’s co-hosted screening day is 10/9.

Always in Season explores the lingering impact of more than a century of lynching African Americans as it connects with racial violence from the past to the present with the case of a Lennon Lacy, a 17-year-old African American who was found hanging from a swing set in rural North Carolina in 2014. Lennon’s mother, Claudia, believes he was lynched, and is determined to find answers. Narration is done by Danny Glover, with an appearance by Bryan Stevenson and participation by Sherrylin Ifill of the NAACP Legal Defense Fund.

STAR (Southern Truth And Reconciliation) and community partners will co-host the Wednesday, October 9th, 4:30 pm screening and the short, 30-minute 6:00 pm post-screening Q&A with director Jacqueline Olive at the Plaza Theatre, 1049 Ponce De Leon Ave, NE. 

The organizations co-hosting the screening in partnership with STAR will be the Fulton County Remembrance Coalition (FCRC), the NAACP Dekalb Remembrance Project (DRP)Compassionate AtlantaFaith Alliance of Metro Atlanta, the Shambala Meditation Center of Atlanta, and the Organization to Commemorate Enslaved African Americans (OCEANS). 

All are welcome to join for an engaged conversation around the legacy of lynching and the ongoing work around issues of reparations, healing, and racial justice which will be the theme for this evening. Rev. Trent Frank of STAR, Allison Bantimba of FCRC and The Center, and Dee Smith of DRP will participate in the post-screening Q & A. Teresa Hardy of NAACP Dekalb will be the moderator.

TICKETS:
1. STAR has arranged for a %15 group discount for STAR Members and the Partner organizations – CONTACT US VIA EMAIL OF PHONE FOR THE PROMO CODE.

2. But this discount can only be obtained by purchasing your ticket at the box office on the day of the event and giving the Promo Code Phrase to the attendant.

3. You can purchase your tickets directly from the theater online linked below if you choose. 

4.  Either way, please let us know if you plan to attend by Replying to us at this site or on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.

If you’re not able to join for the 9th, please consider coming to another screening afternoon. 

See showtimes and ticket information here, the tickets are normally $13.00.

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We Absolutely look forward to seeing you!